Happy Sabbath friends! There have been many moments in my life when I felt undeserving of the love God continues to have for me. If you’re reading this and you resonate with that feeling, I pray this message brings a blessing to you.

Throughout my life, I have experienced two types of love: inconsistent and consistent. I can confidently say that once you experience consistent love, any inconsistent love you’ve known was not truly love.

Inconsistent love can be defined as:
“Inconsistency within a relationship refers to a pattern of unpredictable actions, words, or behaviors. This unpredictability can leave the other person constantly on edge, unsure of what to expect or how to respond. It can lead to feelings of frustration, confusion, and a constant state of emotional unrest” (Shadmani, 2023).

Consistent love can be defined as:
“Love is consistent. When you are loved, you feel at ease. You don’t wonder where you stand with anyone. You are loved when you are your best self and when you flip” (Gikonyo, 2020).

If you have experienced inconsistent love, I want you to know – that was not love. Love is not unpredictable, degrading, or anxiety-inducing. Love is patient, kind, and perfectly reflects who our Heavenly Father is. God is love. God is consistent love.

“And so we know and rely on the love God has for us. God is love. Whoever lives in love lives in God, and God in them.”
— 1 John 4:16 NIV

“For God’s gifts and his call are irrevocable.”
— Romans 11:29 NIV

“Though the mountains be shaken and the hills be removed, yet my unfailing love for you will not be shaken nor my covenant of peace be removed,” says the Lord, who has compassion on you.”
— Isaiah 54:10 NIV

God is consistent love. His love for us is unchanging, constant, unfailing, and everlasting. We can rest in the truth that we should never settle for inconsistent love that leaves us on edge, frustrated, and anxious – because in Jesus Christ, we have consistent love.

When it comes to romantic relationships, I was very used to inconsistent love. I thought that was all I deserved, and that love was always like that. Everything changed when I sought the Lord wholeheartedly and was filled with a love I truly felt undeserving of. Even if we feel too far gone, our Heavenly Father still sees us and desires relationship with us. You can rest assured that when you choose the Lord to lead your life, you will be filled with all the blessings of consistent love.

“But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.”
— Romans 5:8 NIV

“But while he was still a long way off, his father saw him and was filled with compassion for him; he ran to his son, threw his arms around him and kissed him.”
— Luke 15:20 NIV

Being involved with inconsistent love can feel like a rollercoaster ride – not just thrilling, but also nauseating. The longer you stay on, the more it wears you down. It’s not sustainable.

Being involved with consistent love feels like a peaceful stroll on a narrow path – no anxiety-inducing turns, just a steady way leading you to paradise. You may face bumps along the way, but you can trust the destination is sure. Consistent love means having Jesus walking alongside you, protecting you from dangers. Hold firm to His hand, and you will reach your destination.

“Enter through the narrow gate. For wide is the gate and broad is the road that leads to destruction, and many enter through it. But small is the gate and narrow the road that leads to life, and only a few find it.”
— Matthew 7:13-14 NIV

“The Lord himself goes before you and will be with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged.”
— Deuteronomy 31:8 NIV

In this world, you may encounter inconsistent love – a rollercoaster that never ends. But rest assured, with our Heavenly Father, you have consistent love – love that brings peace, guidance, joy, and fulfillment. I pray over all reading this that if you’re in a place of inconsistent love, God will free you to experience the steady, consistent love our Savior offers. The world may bring ups and downs, but God will always bring us back to level ground.

“Whether you turn to the right or to the left, your ears will hear a voice behind you, saying, ‘This is the way; walk in it.’”
— Isaiah 30:21 NIV

Thank You, Jesus, for always showing us steady love, even when we don’t deserve it. Please continue to remind and reassure us that You constantly pour Your abundant love over us all.

“Give thanks to the God of heaven. His love endures forever.”
— Psalms 136:26 NIV

Amen.

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Gikonyo, E. (2020, August 11). Love is consistent. Medium. https://medium.com/@wairimu.gikonyo/love-is-consistent-f1757de84298

Shadmani, L. (2023, July 9). Inconsistent love. Medium. https://medium.com/@lielashadmani/inconsistent-love-f0db55e31b73